Let's talk Feminism - Feeling Pink

Here are some questions I had regarding feminism, let me know what you think, and I’ll let you know my take on them is…

Is it okay to use slangs like :

“That’s so girly” (Yeah it is and I’m proud of it)

“Stop crying like a girl” (Yeah cause only girls have emotions)

“You fight like a girl” (oh really? Have you ever seen a cat fight go down?)

“Go work in the kitchen” (Sorry I think I might just burn it down)

“Drama Queen”( Oh yeah cause guys aren’t dramatic?)?

“Women entrepreneur” (!!?!?!!!!)

I feel like a lot of you don’t see what’s wrong in using these slangs and while I may have joined the party late it’s time to see what it actually means. What’s the harm? Let me tell you what the damage is. Do you laugh at girls and call them out on how “They can’t take a joke” because you cracked a misogynist joke?

Think about it this way, when you say “Stop crying like a girl” what you’re saying is that its wrong to show/feel emotions, because guys definitely don’t have them right? When girls don’t show their emotions they’re “complicated” and when they do “They’re weak?”

When you say “women entrepreneur” the fact that you’re mentioning that she is a woman and that’s something exotic and surprising is seriously disseminating. I’ve never heard anyone say, “male entrepreneur”? Have you?

Are these slangs a way of making men feel better about themselves? Is it a way for them to remain powerful? Why are men’s egos hurt by strong women?

Families say “He’s becoming a man” when a boy starts dating, but when a girl starts dating it’s suddenly a big deal, she’s either “too young”? “Too Naive”? “Lovestruck”? Or an “Emotional fool”?

Dating goes both ways so your “little boy” is only turning into a man if the girl/guy is willing to make it work. I have been lucky when it comes to this because my family is very understanding but I’ve seen way too many of my friends go through this and I really don’t understand this inequality when it comes to dating. It is a conscious choice made by two people who are willing to give a shot to supporting each other, helping each other grow, getting to know each other, and be there for each other, I don’t know see why it has to be such a big deal!

“The society”

Ask any millennial and I can guarantee you that they’re not very fond of this word. Society likes to believe that girls clothes are the reason for rape, but they don’t see what’s wrong with men not asking for consent, the society believes that girls are fools and often need a powerful male figure to depend on, last I checked women are perfectly okay to make their own choices and decisions and are capable of taking responsibility if it comes down to it.

In society, everyone is just trying to please the people who don’t even want what’s better for you, do you honestly not see what’s wrong with that?

Girls, how many times have you felt uncomfortable cause a guy’s eyes lingered on you too long? How many times were you not allowed to leave the house in the night or come back before 10? How many times couldn’t you wear shorts in the burning heat because people were going to look at your legs? How many times you had to say yes to a guy simply because saying no is just too hard?

HOW IS ANY OF THIS A GIRLS FAULT!?

I know that not all boys are bad and I’m not blaming every single boy out there but Yes! I am blaming you if you simply turned your face when you saw a girl uncomfortable and you didn’t do anything about it, I am blaming you if you think you can get away with these jokes, I am blaming you for objectifying women in “boys locker rooms”, I am blaming you if your sister is the only girl you protect, but if you’re not doing any of that I really do respect you.

In all honesty for a very long time I didn’t want to be called “too girly”, I enjoyed being “one of the boys”, I would also judge a girl for not being able to “take a joke”. All this is so normalized that most of the time you don’t even realize what you’re doing wrong but this is the era of change, it has got to start somewhere.

“Be the change you want to see in the world” – Mahatma Gandhi

Let’s make this world a better place no matter what gender or your sexual orientation is!!!!!!!!!!!